Parenting a child who might have ADHD or Autism can be confusing and overwhelming at times. You see them struggling with focus, impulsivity, or managing their emotions in ways that stand out compared to other kids their age. Maybe a teacher has brought up concerns, or you’ve noticed challenges when they’re around peers. If you think your child may be neurodivergent, taking steps early can make a big difference in their growth and well-being.
Recognizing the Signs of ADHD and Autism
ADHD and Autism can appear at different stages of childhood, and early detection is key. ADHD symptoms often become noticeable when children start school (around ages 5–7), as the structured environment highlights difficulties with focus and self-regulation. Autism, however, can often be identified earlier, typically between ages 2–3, when social and communication milestones are evaluated.
Signs of ADHD
Difficulty Staying Focused: Struggles to maintain attention during activities, even those they enjoy.
Impulsivity: Frequently interrupts, acts without thinking, or blurts out responses.
Emotional Regulation Challenges: Intense emotions and frequent outbursts or frustration.
Struggles with Organization: Often forgets tasks, loses items, or struggles with multi-step instructions.
ADHD symptoms tend to become more apparent between ages 5–12, as school and social settings demand more structure. If these patterns persist across settings, it’s worth seeking an evaluation.
Signs of Autism
Difficulty with Social Communication: Trouble understanding emotions, making eye contact, or engaging in conversations.
Repetitive Behaviors or Intense Focus: Repeats actions like hand flapping or fixates on specific interests.
Sensory Sensitivities: Overwhelmed by sounds, textures, or lights, or exhibits strong preferences for certain sensations.
Autism signs are often noticeable between ages 2–3, though milder cases may not emerge until later social demands highlight these challenges. Consistent behaviors across home and social environments warrant further exploration.
Getting a Diagnosis for Your Child
The process of obtaining a diagnosis can feel overwhelming, but breaking it into steps can help:
Start with Observations: Keep a log of your child’s behaviors and challenges over time. Note specific examples, like difficulty finishing homework or becoming overwhelmed in crowded environments.
Speak to Your Child’s Teacher: Teachers often provide valuable insights into how your child behaves compared to peers. They may also help document challenges in an academic setting.
Visit Your Pediatrician: Share your observations and ask for a referral to a specialist, such as a developmental pediatrician, child psychologist, or neurologist.
Consider a Multi-Disciplinary Evaluation: Many clinics and schools offer evaluations that include input from various specialists. This approach often provides a comprehensive picture of your child’s needs.
Advocate for Accessibility Options: If your child is diagnosed, work with their school to create an Individualized Education Program (IEP) or a 504 Plan to ensure they have the accommodations they need to thrive academically.
Parent Training: Supporting Your Child and Yourself
Parent training programs are a cornerstone of supporting children with ADHD or Autism. These programs teach practical strategies for managing challenging behaviors, improving communication, and creating a more supportive home environment. They also emphasize the importance of self-care for parents, especially if you’re navigating neurodivergence yourself.
Check out my blog on Parent Training for a deeper dive into how these programs can empower your family.
Working with Therapists and Specialists
Finding the right professionals is critical to supporting your child’s development and helping your family thrive. ADHD and Autism often come with unique challenges that require targeted strategies and support. Here’s how to approach working with therapists and specialists:
For Your Child:
Occupational Therapists (OTs): These professionals help children build skills for daily living and school, such as improving fine motor skills, sensory processing, and self-regulation.
Speech and Language Pathologists: If your child has trouble with communication, these specialists can support their ability to express themselves, understand others, and navigate social interactions.
Behavioral Therapists: Behavioral therapies can help children develop positive behaviors and reduce challenges. Look for approaches that are respectful of your child’s individuality and prioritize their well-being.
Counselors or Psychologists: Therapists experienced in working with neurodivergent children can address emotional regulation, anxiety, and self-esteem while helping your child navigate their unique experiences.
For You as a Parent:
Family Therapists: A family therapist can guide you in improving communication within your family, reducing stress, and fostering a supportive environment for your child.
ADHD- and Autism-Informed Therapists: These therapists can help you process your own feelings, address challenges related to parenting, and develop practical strategies to manage the daily demands of raising a neurodivergent child.
Parent Coaching or Support Groups: Working with a coach or joining a support group can connect you with others who share your journey, providing encouragement, tips, and camaraderie.
How to Find the Right Specialists:
Ask your pediatrician or school counselor for recommendations.
Research local clinics and specialists who focus on ADHD and Autism.
Look for online directories like Psychology Today or organizations like CHADD for referrals.
Don’t hesitate to interview potential therapists or specialists to ensure they’re a good fit for your child and your family’s needs.
With the right therapists and school accommodations in place, your child can thrive in both their education and daily life. Advocating for these resources may take time and effort, but the rewards are well worth it. Your child deserves a supportive environment that empowers them to reach their full potential—and you deserve the guidance and tools to make that happen.
Accessible Options for Every Family
If resources are a concern, explore community programs, school-based supports, or virtual options. Many organizations offer sliding-scale fees, grants, or other assistance to make services more affordable.
Taking the Next Steps
Remember, the journey toward understanding and supporting your neurodivergent child is not one you have to take alone. Seeking help, learning about ADHD and Autism, and implementing strategies at home and school will create a foundation where your child—and your family—can thrive.
If you’re ready to take the next step, reach out and set up a Free Discovery Call if you need guidance and support. Together, we can create a roadmap for your child’s success while ensuring you feel confident and equipped as a parent.